Friday, May 29, 2009 and Labels

When I reached this age, I figured that were a lot of things that I was supposed to be by now.
I was supposed to be a wife.
I was supposed to be a mother.
I was supposed to be a writer/singer/actress full time.
I was supposed to own a house.

By nearly 30, I thought these things would just magically happen to me. Those where the labels I thought would define me. But now, I see they don't. They are just labels. Since we humans feel the need to label and define things - here's what I am now.

I am unmarried.
I am independent.
I am loved by a matrix of ecclectic family and friends.
I am proud of the woman I'm still growing into.
I am learning from everything around me.
I am a ridiculous Disney fan.
I am an employee in a company that does good in the world.
I am a singer, songwriter, poet, and author.
I am very passionate.
I am a person who craves adventure.
I am a Boxer mom. (Clydas is da' bomb.)
I am a triathlete.
I am stronger than I ever thought I'd be.
I am a seasoned "bear hunter" - win or lose. *(See previous blogs if you need an explination of "bear hunting".)

And for me - all of these things that I am far surpass whoever I thought I was supposed to be. I've always wanted to live an extraordinary life...

And you know what?
I may not be what I thought I was supposed to be...
But as far as living a life that's far from ordinary - thanks to all the wonderful people I've met, learned from, and held dear -
I am.

Lesson learned? Get rid of the "shoulds" and just "be". Define who you are for yourself.


  1. "I am stronger than I ever thought I'd be" Yes you are! You're amazing sis, and I'm so glad you're all of these things and more, and not stuck in the past or what "should" have been's.

  2. You go! At least you won a sweet thinnerware set... :) I went to their website and I saw your name and I was like, "... wait, i KNOW her!" So that was a pretty cool experience for me. It was like going to High School with Steven Spielberg for a minute! (which my mom did) :)

  3. You ARE losing weight, too. Don't forget that!

  4. That is so awesome!! You have come so far!